Life's appetite

Loneliness Vs. Solitude

Posted by Unknown , November 11, 2011 9:42 AM

Purgatory is said to be a place where a person is trapped in a white empty world where no one else exists, between heaven and hell, between the struggle of good and evil, where being sane without inhibitions, without norms and without anybody else is the greatest challenge. Why do you think people made up this fictitious place? This I believe is a manifestation of feelings we call loneliness or solitude. To either express "the fear of being alone" or "the grace of being lone"

This inevitable feeling happens to us whether it's a passive experience of loneliness or an outburst of reason of its existence. In all of life's little ironies, many people are surrounded by others and they still manage to feel misunderstood, to feel alone, and to feel empty. Marriages where husband and wife are invisible to each other, siblings where their differences are their battles, and friends where despite being close have lives of their own. A lot of people actually hate the idea of being alone because they see it as abysmal. We have heard a lot of saying that is relative to the need of being with another, such as "no man is an island", "two heads are better than one" or even the word "soul mate". We are by nature co-independent with others, but why do we sometimes feel that no matter how much we try to fit in, to be accepted,to be understood, there is still no one?

This mystery to feat and be able to accept this state lies within us. The fact that we don't feel connected to the people around us and to the world means that we lost the most important connection of all-our self. Its how we warn or make known of ourselves of our unresolved issues, fears, doubts,dependence or probably a caution, like the feeling that the alone time does help bring out clarity, growth, trust and understanding. But the deafening silence can be both solace and at times, burden. This we have to cope and believe that no matter how long we feel sad in that state, it had begun and it will also end.

Written by: Rochelle "Sam" Real